After ten minutes of contemplating if this is the Universe's way of telling me that I‘m not compatible with any men (Mum's been saying it for years), I realign my social-media gender.I promptly get trigger-happy and tick "yes" to a local lad who “likes” me too. Maybe I'm being a tad picky for someone using a free hookup app?
” What more modern way to make that most basic binary decision of whether you want to shag someone than a game of real-world "Hot or Not"?
Social media has made us expert first-daters, well-versed in smalltalk and over-sharing with strangers.
My response tends to go along these lines: So let me get this right: You want to start dating but you don’t want it to progress into a committed relationship because you like your life too much / you’re emotionally unavailable and basically not over your ex or your past / you’re busier than a president or prime minister / you have difficulty trusting people / you need to get laid / you basically don’t like your own company so are looking for somebody else to give you special, my reticence about being emotionally available and committing will disappear”.
There’s nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship.
This arrangement would generally be called a friend with benefits, or a fuck buddy, or a romantic friendship, or perhaps even a relationship—with “no strings attached.” But let’s be real: There are always strings, aren’t there?