When my husband and I were still dating, I pulled up the list one night and suggested we play the “questions game.” We also mixed it up by seeing if we could guess what the other person would answer.
It was a lot of fun, but also a very profound experience and we ended up learning so much about each other (and about ourselves! To this day we make an effort to spend time asking each other deep, meaningful questions that go beyond ‘how was your day?
All the observable and obvious clues: They are nicely groomed—stylish, but not overdone. As would-be romances go, this plane is very slow to leave the gate and get onto the runway. or if it will lose engine power and sit on the tarmac indefinitely. It’s true that first dates can be one of the most nerve-wracking, anxiety-producing situations in our society.
They scan the room, menu, and table setting, only occasionally making eye contact. The key to having a positive experience is relaxed conversation, and that can be helped along with some well-chosen first-date questions.
As Shaya Ostrov says in his book, The Inner Circle,"I’m watching you, hearing you, paying attention to you.