Common obsessive themes include fear of contamination, fears about being responsible for harming the self or others, doubts, and orderliness.
However, people with OCD can also have religious and sexual obsessions.
I just cannot understand not knowing the difference between your own need for a friend, and his need to be who he is. Perhaps you cannot live with his OCD-based defensiveness, which may very well be an indication that he is not ready to change.
This inability to change may very well be something to accept.
But since dating someone with OCD has its specificities, let’s explore some tailor-made tips.