Reasons why dating sites are bad


And if you need to pee, you’ll forget about the hunger, too.” Maslow’s hierarchy of needs says that base-level needs like shelter, security, employment and resources supersede higher ones. If you’re dating her, you try to be supportive the first few times. If she’s in a theater production, she may not be available on any weekend evening for .

If scarcity prevents fulfillment of those basic needs, you don’t get to rise to the higher ones involving love, esteem and self-actualization. But after she cancels on you for an audition for a Charmin' ad again, you start wondering whether being left high and dry is your idea of fun. Film shoots happen at midnight; callbacks pop up out of nowhere.

And why not (besides the mildly inconvenient fact of those two being married to each other)? Now I’ve been living in Los Angeles for some years, and for better or for worse have gone out with enough actresses to know what it’s like.

They sling drinks and wait tables, waiting for their big break. Every call and meeting with producers and agents is an emergency.

One of my mentors put it bluntly: “If you’re hungry, you’ll forget about love. Even though there’s a less than 10% chance of anything coming out of any given audition, she never knows which one’s going to be the big one, so she has to show up every day. In addition to the sudden-death auditions and callbacks that usually happen on weekends when you’re trying to get together, actors also have paying gigs that happen at inconvenient times for workaday mortals.

One of the most common romantic fantasies that men and women in this country tend to have is to date an actor.

The men all want an Angelina Jolie, and all the women want a Brad Pitt.

The first prominent online dating site was Match.com, which launched in 1995.