But conversely, believing you should have sex after a specific number of dates can feel artificial, not to mention scary in some cases.
A better rule: "Let the connection between the two of you develop, and allow sex to happen organically," says Dr.
But the thing is, sticking to the same old, same old could leave you missing out on some great new erotic and bonding experiences.
Which is why Redbook decided to take a look at how couples today are revising the old rules and forging a more flexible approach to pleasure.
That's why for busy couples today, the smart move is to bust out of the two-hours-on-Saturday-night mind-set and grab opportunities for great sex whenever you can find them. "Maybe we have 10 minutes before the kids come home, or five minutes in the kitchen before guests arrive -- suddenly we're discovering how to have sex on the big chopping-block island, and it's very exciting." Of course, making quickies satisfying can be a challenge -- but it's not impossible.